there is also to be considered the tone of voice and the telltale signs of body language that tell an entirely different story. Taking it out of the context from the situation it was given. However having said that, in your case I believe there is strong evidence that there is emotionally here. What trigger this belief in me were those jokes of physical and the constant comments of your physical attributes. There is still in your relationship. These comments or not be intentional or/and he not even be aware of them let alone their affect on you. What gave me pause was that you were also not aware of them until your friends told you. This could mean that there is no intentional emotional or that you have a low esteem of yourself. You have became more sensitive now because of the influence of your friends' comments as well as those here on CL. He be one of those people that genuinely are simply very attracted to big women, but is also influenced by our society's negative view of "big boned people". An easy example is our of ice cream but then some of us then feel a tinge of guilt so we go to the gym or simple chastise ourselves a little. So before you go back armed with what has been said here and start an argument, keep an open mind and have a quiet talk with him at a neutral time and place. Try not to make it a you conversation but more a me conversation.
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